What comes to mind when you think of it?
Love? Hate? Meh?
I don’t know that I really had a strong feeling other than feeling strongly that it was my duty to take care of meals and having a desire to do so and to do so well.
So, I wouldn’t say I ever loved cooking, but I was passionate about it in some ways.
Due to our financial situation I had been really trying to cook inexpensive meals. Due to my busyness as a mama to two little ones just 19 months apart and as a work-at-home mama with three online jobs, I looked for recipes with the titles, “quick” and “easy”.
Many of these meals were delicious. Some were just ok. Others I won’t be making again. My husband rarely complains, unless I really prod him for his opinion. He’s awesome like that. He’ll eat whatever is placed before him.
However, just because he doesn’t ask for more does not mean he doesn’t deserve more.
Here’s where The Pioneer Woman came in.
I love her. Her cooking show became available on Netflix and I was all over it. My husband, too, became engrossed and I soon wasn’t able to watch an episode without him.
I made a few of the meals and they were delish, of course. Hubby and I even made one of the desserts together for my sis-in-law’s birthday.
But, I’ll tell you what. It wasn’t merely the tantalizing meals that inspired me. It was a few other things entirely.
First, her attitude. Her joy in cooking. her delight in providing meals for her husband and children, extended family, ranch hands, friends. It was so evident. I know it is a show, but I feel like many cooking shows focus on ingredients and the joy of the food itself. However, Ree focused on the people she was feeding: what they liked, their favorites, how to make it special for them.
Truly, it inspired me.
Then, I considered this. I thought about the fact that every time her husband walks into their kitchen for a meal, he knows the food will be good. He knows it will be hearty. He knows it will be to his liking. I began thinking what a blessing that is to him. He works hard all day and then can look forward to a delicious, well-thought-out, purposeful meal that is designed to please him. Wow! The same goes for her children. They know what they will find at the dinner table each evening. No doubt, they want to come home for meals!
It reminds me of Proverbs 31: 11 ” The heart of her husband safely trusts her, so he will have no lack of gain.”
He trusts her to feed him and to consider him when menu planning and cooking.
Also, I considered how all this must make Ree herself feel. To know your husband loves your cooking. To know he enjoys the meals you make him. To feel the appreciation and the pride that you were able to care for your loved ones in this simple and necessary way. How inspiring! How energizing!
Finally, I took note of my husband’s reactions to the meals on the show. His evident desire to eat something similar to what he was seeing. If that’s not motivating, I don’t know what is?!
So, I renewed my cooking with new purpose. I decided I would be willing to spend a little extra money on food in order to make sure hubby was getting meals he really enjoyed and wanted. Think, meat. Then, I chose to not focus solely on “quick” and “easy”, but on quality as well.
In Proverbs 31: 14 we are told “She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar.”
She puts forth extra effort, not merely what is required.
Thankfully, many of The Pioneer Woman’s meals are fairly simple. Just because something has a lot of steps or ingredients does not mean it is hard. In addition, we still have “easy” nights of baked potatoes, or grilled cheese with tomato soup, or tostadas. They are the exception, however, not the rule.
My husband has been praising my cooking more and more and he gets excited about certain meals. If I make homemade bread then I am placed on a pedestal by him. How can I deny him that joy simply because it is inconvenient for me? I can’t and I shouldn’t.
I always tell him I am not a good cook, I just care and can read recipes! It’s so true. You don’t have to be naturally good at it. You don’t have to even like the act of cooking. But, if you love your man and if you can read, you can change your outlook on cooking.
After all, Colossians 3:23 tells us, “And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.”
So cook as unto the Lord and see how you are blessed and your family is blessed as well.
Maybe you like healthy meals and less meat and even though your husband doesn’t complain, you know her prefers meat and potatoes.
Maybe he has a favorite meal that takes a long time to make.
I’m not sure of your circumstance, but I am sure that your husband will appreciate your efforts, even if he only shows it by licking his plate.
Don’t know where to start? Here’s a simple step:
When you menu plan this week, ask your husband for two meal suggestions (anything he wants). Then, go from there.
To help you out, here are a few favorite recent recipes:
Perfect Pot Roast
One Pan Quinoa Chili